SOH and Ecca, aren't you both on C/Coast? Is Mrs/Miss/Ms SOH and Mrs/Miss/Ms Ecca able to shack up for female shenannigans every so often, or maybe get Ecca's partner in with SOH's partners circle of friends?
I'm a little like that myself. A bit of a social recluse / quite guarded in character. Get chatting with me and I'm perfectly friendly in real life, but meeting new people can be somewhat reserved until I suss out that other person (if that makes sense).
Leaving school in Yr 10 didn't help as teenagers can be brutal. For me leaving to persue a career ended up in the last 3 months and then on being cut off contact with my friends who deserted me. That was almost 20 years ago. Since then I've got 2 "good friends", but they both live interstate now and we only catch up once a year or so. So effectively I have 0 friends. Well I tell a lie there as my wife IS my best friend.
I don't play any sports, and being a bit of a social recluse at times, and at my age (mid 30s), making friends is a tricky one.
That said between my wife, our dog, and a close family I still lead a relatively happy life.... heck I've got over a lot worse in the past.
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Ecca I'm sure your partner in time will change her situation, albeit theres some hanging in there until they get to school age, and then things should work out for the better.