The "R U OK ?" Thread

[Kaz]

Look after your friends please. My best took his on Friday. Just check in. I didn't until too late.

Sorry to hear about that.

Sometimes there isn't any warning signs. Some people put on a mask.

 

[L.B]

Hey guys,

I quickly wanted to post in here just to let you guys know that I am a qualified mental health education officer (Peer support worker) and I worked for NSW Health for a few years. My role was to use my lived/living experience to help support people who were accessing different mental health services. I was apart of the co-design, implementation and delivery of the towards zero suicides project in South west Sydney and I was also the first Perinatal Lived experience professional who was apart of the opening of the parent and baby unit at RPA.

I know all of that sounds like a resume lol but I wanted to let everyone know that for anyone who is struggling and feels as though they have no one or can’t reach out to anyone and wants some advice or requires assistance accessing mental health services, even if you’d like some mentoring and one on one support, I’m always happy to be a sounding board for anyone who is going through a tough time, even if you’re just wanting to vent.

Bear in mind, the beauty of what I did in my job was being able to use my own personal experience of suffering, recovery and healing to help people and it certainly did. Being able to connect on the same level and being the living proof that we can go through hardships, hit rock bottom, be knocking on deaths door (literally) and survive it all and still be going through the ringer day in day out and still be surviving, is what gets me through each and everyday.

So for anyone who needs some support, please feel free to reach out at anytime. I’m non judgemental and everything you say to me stays with me.

much love to you all and nothing but positive energy, happiness and healing

 

[Mr 95%]

Hey guys,

I quickly wanted to post in here just to let you guys know that I am a qualified mental health education officer (Peer support worker) and I worked for NSW Health for a few years. My role was to use my lived/living experience to help support people who were accessing different mental health services. I was apart of the co-design, implementation and delivery of the towards zero suicides project in South west Sydney and I was also the first Perinatal Lived experience professional who was apart of the opening of the parent and baby unit at RPA.

I know all of that sounds like a resume lol but I wanted to let everyone know that for anyone who is struggling and feels as though they have no one or can’t reach out to anyone and wants some advice or requires assistance accessing mental health services, even if you’d like some mentoring and one on one support, I’m always happy to be a sounding board for anyone who is going through a tough time, even if you’re just wanting to vent.

Bear in mind, the beauty of what I did in my job was being able to use my own personal experience of suffering, recovery and healing to help people and it certainly did. Being able to connect on the same level and being the living proof that we can go through hardships, hit rock bottom, be knocking on deaths door (literally) and survive it all and still be going through the ringer day in day out and still be surviving, is what gets me through each and everyday.

So for anyone who needs some support, please feel free to reach out at anytime. I’m non judgemental and everything you say to me stays with me.

much love to you all and nothing but positive energy, happiness and healing

What a legend..so good!

 

[L.B]

What a legend..so good!

Thanks bud appreciate the love

 

[CrittaMagic69]

Hey guys,

I quickly wanted to post in here just to let you guys know that I am a qualified mental health education officer (Peer support worker) and I worked for NSW Health for a few years. My role was to use my lived/living experience to help support people who were accessing different mental health services. I was apart of the co-design, implementation and delivery of the towards zero suicides project in South west Sydney and I was also the first Perinatal Lived experience professional who was apart of the opening of the parent and baby unit at RPA.

I know all of that sounds like a resume lol but I wanted to let everyone know that for anyone who is struggling and feels as though they have no one or can’t reach out to anyone and wants some advice or requires assistance accessing mental health services, even if you’d like some mentoring and one on one support, I’m always happy to be a sounding board for anyone who is going through a tough time, even if you’re just wanting to vent.

Bear in mind, the beauty of what I did in my job was being able to use my own personal experience of suffering, recovery and healing to help people and it certainly did. Being able to connect on the same level and being the living proof that we can go through hardships, hit rock bottom, be knocking on deaths door (literally) and survive it all and still be going through the ringer day in day out and still be surviving, is what gets me through each and everyday.

So for anyone who needs some support, please feel free to reach out at anytime. I’m non judgemental and everything you say to me stays with me.

much love to you all and nothing but positive energy, happiness and healing

 

[L.B]

Of that entire post, that’s what you picked up?

 

[CrittaMagic69]

Of that entire post, that’s what you picked up?

It's just how my brain works

 

[L.B]

It's just how my brain works

Thank God your brain is working though, you had me worried

 

[CrittaMagic69]

Thank God your brain is working though, you had me worried

It's hanging on for now

 

[Johnnny2233]

COCAINE is devils drug it can catch you as much as any other illict drug I was a addict for a long time but I put myself away and I would never look back as soon as I got married and kids I never looked back sober 10 years not even a drink.

it’s really sad to see what’s happening around the other day kids there only 16 or even younger using all this shit it’s gettting worse and worse.

there is always help you just have to commit to it.
and if you do light is there. Ill
Say something nothing in the world would ever turn me back to that shit I almost literally was lost I must of had a god looking down at me or something.

There is no shame in reaching out.

 

[SexBomb]

Struggling...

 

[ASSASSIN]

Struggling...

What's got you down bro (don't have to get into details if you wish)

 

[SexBomb]

What's got you down bro (don't have to get into details if you wish)

The clusterfuck I call life!
An example, due to the insurance companies arseholery, I've no landline/internet at home, despite NBN being classified as priority essential service due to medical issues under the roof.
So here I am, in a Club, leeching their WiFi to connect with the world and try to arrange services to fix a plethora of issues left by the insurance company and their builders/contractors etcetera.
It is why I've not been active on here for weeks.
I've no television, so missed most of our final matches of the season.
I'm unable to cook, as the builders have stepped on the top of the oven whilst working, bending the hotplate, leaving the griller and oven door unable to be closed.
Their neglect has broken the refrigerator, it no longer chills (freezer still works).
So I've no way to safely store food requiring storage below 5 degrees, yet not frozen.
They've not cleaned after their slap and tickle dodgy repair job that is not compliant with Australian Standards.
Dust being an allergy of mine, you can imagine the fun of constant digestive issues, rashes and itchy skin due to living in an environment covered in an allergen, with the only way to remove it, causing further irritation.
On top of this, I managed to get Mum into rehabilitation, where they've provided physio and exercise daily, which has seen her grow from being chair bound and a falls risk, to sleeping in a bed again, to walking with a slider over short distances.
Yet now want to boot her before establishing her as no longer a falls risk, let alone able to use her wheeled walker again.
Another join desiring to do half a job and seeking to flick her off to respite care, despite Mum and I both knowing from prior experiences, that she will go backwards there.
The few places I can reach out to for support, have failed.
Seeking medical support is restricted due to new legislation, so not getting pain or depression medication.

So depressed, in pain, allergies triggered, and surrounded by shit in most aspects of life would be the TL DR summary.

 

[ASSASSIN]

The clusterfuck I call life!
An example, due to the insurance companies arseholery, I've no landline/internet at home, despite NBN being classified as priority essential service due to medical issues under the roof.
So here I am, in a Club, leeching their WiFi to connect with the world and try to arrange services to fix a plethora of issues left by the insurance company and their builders/contractors etcetera.
It is why I've not been active on here for weeks.
I've no television, so missed most of our final matches of the season.
I'm unable to cook, as the builders have stepped on the top of the oven whilst working, bending the hotplate, leaving the griller and oven door unable to be closed.
Their neglect has broken the refrigerator, it no longer chills (freezer still works).
So I've no way to safely store food requiring storage below 5 degrees, yet not frozen.
They've not cleaned after their slap and tickle dodgy repair job that is not compliant with Australian Standards.
Dust being an allergy of mine, you can imagine the fun of constant digestive issues, rashes and itchy skin due to living in an environment covered in an allergen, with the only way to remove it, causing further irritation.
On top of this, I managed to get Mum into rehabilitation, where they've provided physio and exercise daily, which has seen her grow from being chair bound and a falls risk, to sleeping in a bed again, to walking with a slider over short distances.
Yet now want to boot her before establishing her as no longer a falls risk, let alone able to use her wheeled walker again.
Another join desiring to do half a job and seeking to flick her off to respite care, despite Mum and I both knowing from prior experiences, that she will go backwards there.
The few places I can reach out to for support, have failed.
Seeking medical support is restricted due to new legislation, so not getting pain or depression medication.

So depressed, in pain, allergies triggered, and surrounded by shit in most aspects of life would be the TL DR summary.

Damn man I am so sorry to hear that. I really wish I knew the words to give you a bit of comfort.

You're a soldier bro, you've made it this far, you know you will keep on fighting. Hopefully getting it off your chest and knowing we actually care and feel for you will help a bit.

Both you and mum will be in my prayers.

PS is there anyone you can report the wanker insurance company to? That's unacceptable.

 

[SexBomb]

Damn man I am so sorry to hear that. I really wish I knew the words to give you a bit of comfort.

You're a soldier bro, you've made it this far, you know you will keep on fighting. Hopefully getting it off your chest and knowing we actually care and feel for you will help a bit.

Both you and mum will be in my prayers.

PS is there anyone you can report the wanker insurance company to? That's unacceptable.

AFCA
Have already raised a case with them prior over this situation, which started about 10 years ago.

The problem with words, is no matter how well intended, to someone on the other side of them, they can come across as hollow.
I know this is not the case here habib, yet my mind, just like everyone elses...

Soldiers are only human and exhaust from various forms of fatigue.
How many times can you pick yourself up, before you no longer hold the physical energy within to do so, once again?

Rarely a day that the mind does not contemplate tapping out.

 

[Kaz]

@SexBomb

Can you & your mum both get a care plan from your GP.

Prepare a GPMP, TCAs or MHCC - Health professionals - Services Australia

Prepare a General Practitioner Management Plan (GPMP), Team Care Arrangements (TCAs) or case conferences.

www.servicesaustralia.gov.au

.

 

[Alan79]

AFCA
Have already raised a case with them prior over this situation, which started about 10 years ago.

The problem with words, is no matter how well intended, to someone on the other side of them, they can come across as hollow.
I know this is not the case here habib, yet my mind, just like everyone elses...

Soldiers are only human and exhaust from various forms of fatigue.
How many times can you pick yourself up, before you no longer hold the physical energy within to do so, once again?

Rarely a day that the mind does not contemplate tapping out.

I don't know what point you're at in your mind to be contemplating tapping out. But the universe only kicks you so many times before it moves on to someone else in my experience.

Just getting through some mental health struggles of my own at the moment. For me I look for the small victories. Sometimes they feel insignificant. But they're something to build on.

You said that the treatment plan for your mum has gotten some results. It's a small victory that you can take some heart from. If she's able to improve with one program, there's others out there which can help her too.

If your fridge is fucked, go down to the Salvation army and let them know it's fucked, you're struggling with the home repairs that've been messed up and you need it to help look after your mum. They will sort something out for you to keep your fod fresh. They might be able to sort you out with some kind of temporary cooker of some description too. No shame in getting help from them when you need it. When you're doing better make a donation. Explain what's going on with your mum too. They might be able to arrange for some help with her as well.

And while we're wanting to support you as we can, don't rely on us entirely. Give lifeline a ring when you are thinking your darkest thoughts. Where we'll try and say something nice, you've got a truckload of people a phone call away who you can pour your shit on. Mightn't sound like what you need, but it can help to just let the words flow to a stranger.

Wish there was something I could say that'd help. But start with getting in touch with the salvos and sorting out a used fridge for the moment. Take it from there.

 

[SexBomb]

Thank you to all for sending well-wishes and seeking to support publicly and privately.
Great ideas and suggestions, a lot I've already explored, yet still great advice for others in a similar place and too afraid/proud to ask/talk openly.

 

[SexBomb]

@SexBomb

Can you & your mum both get a care plan from your GP.

Prepare a GPMP, TCAs or MHCC - Health professionals - Services Australia

Prepare a General Practitioner Management Plan (GPMP), Team Care Arrangements (TCAs) or case conferences.

www.servicesaustralia.gov.au

.

Can? Yes.
Have? Yes.
Good advice for others too? Most definitely YES.
Appreciative of you? See above!

FWIW, not my first lap on this merry-go-round.
Been on this 'ride' for the majority of my life, so have explored a swathe of options.

 

[SexBomb]

I don't know what point you're at in your mind to be contemplating tapping out. But the universe only kicks you so many times before it moves on to someone else in my experience.

Just getting through some mental health struggles of my own at the moment. For me I look for the small victories. Sometimes they feel insignificant. But they're something to build on.

You said that the treatment plan for your mum has gotten some results. It's a small victory that you can take some heart from. If she's able to improve with one program, there's others out there which can help her too.

If your fridge is fucked, go down to the Salvation army and let them know it's fucked, you're struggling with the home repairs that've been messed up and you need it to help look after your mum. They will sort something out for you to keep your fod fresh. They might be able to sort you out with some kind of temporary cooker of some description too. No shame in getting help from them when you need it. When you're doing better make a donation. Explain what's going on with your mum too. They might be able to arrange for some help with her as well.

And while we're wanting to support you as we can, don't rely on us entirely. Give lifeline a ring when you are thinking your darkest thoughts. Where we'll try and say something nice, you've got a truckload of people a phone call away who you can pour your shit on. Mightn't sound like what you need, but it can help to just let the words flow to a stranger.

Wish there was something I could say that'd help. But start with getting in touch with the salvos and sorting out a used fridge for the moment. Take it from there.

Said Universe must be a bully then, as it's not stopped since before I was born!
I remember, and isn't it telling that oft those that are down and out are the ones extending their hands to help a fellow brother or sister back to their feet? A hand up and a shoulder to steady yourself upon.
I understand what you're sharing, and seek to view things in that light and ignore what I'm unable to change. Yet, intelligence and depression are a hell of a fucked up evil drug, without the high part to make it worthwhile.
Said program seeks to remove her before she has transitioned from recovering to recovered enough that she can realise some independence.
The insurance company responded to several emails yesterday.
The assessor is to contact me to arrange an assessment of outstanding issues, including the refrigerator.
Told to eat out and collect receipts in the interim, with the possibility of being refunded for meals.
If no action in the short term, I will have to take up that option, and it's not like I've not donated time and money to them before.
Have tried the various crisis numbers before.
Sexism is not my flavour of support.