Psycho Doggie
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Try hammering a nail in using a rolled up piece of bubble wrap, if at first you don't succeed, try, try again...A wiseman also once said, " if at first you dont succeed try, try and try again"
The point is not that if something fails you give in, it is that it is daft to keep trying to solve a problem using the same failed solution. I'm not applying this liberally to all smacking either, just those occasions when smacking keeps being the first option even though it clearly is not working in a given situation. Arguably the worst effects of smacking is when it becomes a habitual default response to the same behavior.
A threat is only as good as the willingness and capability to back it up with action.My 6 year old coped some bad ones on the bum from 2-4. Now he rarely gets any.
Telling him verbally at that age was impossible cos he started ignoring our threats.
It is useful practice to sit down and explain to a child in calm terms what they did wrong and why the are being disciplined for it, even if the kid is only 18-24 months. They won't understand it all, if any of it, but it establishes a pattern for the future which both parent and child become accustomed too. As soon as possible you get the child talking during such disciplinary chats, get them to explain themselves, reflect on reasons their behaviour isn't acceptable, etc.
When you say no touch, does that mean 100%, no touch either positive or negative? Also, is there evidence that the parents are using consistent discipline of some sort other than physical?I have a friend who has a 5 year old and a 3 year old, never ever touched either of them cos he Is also of the opinion of no touching. Both his kids are the biggest bullies and physically hurt every other kid....now where the fck did they learn that.?