He's probably on the verge of losing his family, and even if she stays there's a lot of hard work to do at home. If that doesn't change the idiot, nothing will.
Exactly right and the Court case against Lichaa's DV will reveal more and highlight the events, and repercussions, even more, if it goes to Court with more public shaming.
Or even if Lichaa seeks to not go ahead with the marriage.
The fallout is not over yet.
I'm writing this as both a female and as a counsellor and someone who wants the gravity of Elliot's partner's predictament to be appreciated as well. Also if Adam is human, he could not be in a very good head space himself where all he has atm is his footy I imagine.
Either way, depending on what level of sexual activity they got up to, Adam's partner will never be able to trust him again...and even more so if she ever sees him drinking again and how it controls his actions.
Might not affect their relationship right now if they can work out their feelings soonish, and get back together, but definately will traumatise her when they argue about anything and later in life as their relationship changes and matures.
The feeling of personal vulnerability and betrayal and that of your young innocent first baby together will never leave her. It's just a matter of being able to deal with it now but I hope she gets professional mental health care to cope into the future when the black dog barks and I hope she has a lot of family around her for support. We hear how the club is supervisong a care program for him, well I hope his young partner doesn't feel abandoned and unsupported by all of this.
Having just had a baby is a very pivotal point in a woman's life and very emotional as we know with post natal depression.
Knowing your husband wouldn't come home with you at 2am and was ok with letting you get an Uber alone with a 9 month old baby to manage, knowing the other female's husband went to bed at 1am and your partner would be alone with her, it erodes your faith already....why is he staying, it's not like his mate is still there to talk/drink with. I'd have been ropable even at that point. He really had no right to stay.
And then to compound it all, it goes public with Lichaa going off his head.
There's the hurt and then there's the public humiliation of your new father partner having a sexual tryst with a girlfriend and partner of his mate.
There are all kinds of scenarios going through that young woman's mind. Re-living past times where it might have happened. Your heart and head telling you the worse possible images and outcomes.
I just wanted to put it out there that actions have repercussions and we all need to consider a whole lot more than what a momentary nice feeling costs us in life and how it affects others.
I hope they can sort it out between them but that young lady probably needs more support and councelling than Adam does. He's got a whole team of mates and professionals and mentors around him....I doubt she has anything like that and only her immediate NT family at present.
It's a good idea to leave them alone now as far as public comments.
The club has made a determination but I hope that includes ensuring Elliot provides adequate funds to her for her rehabilitation as well, if she doesn't have the means and that a regular program of support and contact is maintained to her bc it shouldn't be all one way. Part of this alcohol program for him should include support for this young woman and child as well.
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