Difficult topic to bring up.
It's been an issue, separation that I've been making plans for in my head for the past 3 or 4 years. Mentally man it's draining.
There are 2 sides to every story. I feel I just can't live with the Mrs any more. Everything I do is wrong (maybe I'm too sensitive), but the name calling, the fact that she could've had others, ruined her life, insulting my late parents etc
I'm Catholic.....I believe but really don't go to church. I try in all honesty man to treat people like I'd want to be treated. I'm reasonably popular but the ONLY thing stopping me is my kids. They're young adults and don't live at home but I don't know I worry what it's gonna do to them.
Mate of mine recently got divorced and cannot stand being in the same building (truly) as his ex.
Lastly, we have slept separately in different rooms for the past 3 years. Celibacy doesn't bother me 1 bit. I have my 3 dogs that love me unconditionally and keep me sane. I went for over a month back home to Italy this year, left her behind and was in total serenity. I'm doing the same next year.
Please don't suggest counselling as according to the Mrs there's nothing wrong with her.
Tough read that mate and am sorry you're struggling at this point.
While all of us here no doubt want the best for you, ultimately what we say should mean nothing.
At the end of the day, you'll need to look within yourself and make that decision for yourself and yourself only.
You seem old school, which is cool, so perhaps you see this as being selfish which I understand. I mean, you're putting yourself before others so that's being selfish, no?
The reality, to me at least, is that you can't help or be good to others if you're not good to yourself first. No matter how hard you try, people will feel that ... imo at least.
It seems as though you know what next step to take, but your love and worry for your kids is holding you back. Which shows what a good man you are.
What I'll say is this. Any adverse affects your children get from your relationship to your wife will have been formed by the age of 13. Anything after doesn't really impact too much as it's already engrained in them.
So, if you take that step to separation I don't believe it'll have a massive impact on their mentality at all as they would already have gone through it all.
As I said tho, what I or others say should have very little bearing on your decision. You already know the right solution.
If you need to chat anytime hit me up as I'll be the most likely to be awake at the times everyone else is asleep. That goes to everyone else on here also. If you're having a bad night and have no one to speak to hit me up.
Unless you're a Man United supporter of course!