Its all good and well until someone says something you don't agree with. That's the whole issue. Not many people these days seems to be able to handle someone else having a different opinion without attacking them.
Case in point, in the now closed thread in the lounge, all I said was that anyone who attacks children, women and the elderly deserve to be punted from this Earth, and was careful not to point fingers or take sides (Im not an Arab, or a Jew, so literally have no dog in this fight), and you attacked me calling my opinions fucked up as if I had just called for the death of someones race. I am still scratching my head as to wtf I said that was so controversial.
So, no offence, however you are in absolutely no position to talk about speaking loud and proud and being respectful.
The key words there were, your opinion.
I, like you and every other human, can not possibly agree upon everything.
Despite that, I appreciate and value your input, be it right, wrong, or just confusing to a fellow human.
As a rule, I seek (and openly admit to sometimes failing) to ensure that point is appreciated.
I was lazy in my reply and had to address that at a later point, I did not go beyond sharing my outrage.
If I had expressed that I agreed with the first sentence, yet it was in the second sentence of your post I took offence to, I suspect it would have been read in a different manner by you.
The vast majority of us hate and are pained to see innocents suffering, irrelevant to the side they fall upon.
That examples of why we do need to talk about issues, the easy way does not work.
Bad habits are literally the mind seeking the easy way, seeking to only use iirc 30% of the energy/capacity ( I forget which is the case tbf) that forming/maintaining a good habit does.
We as a greater society have taken the easy route and now find ourselves in the mess where we are unable to easily discuss contentious topics due to the reasons you mentioned.
You do have skin in the game, you like most other people including myself, seek peace for mankind, we have to fight for that.