Weddings

[Hacky McAxe]

Haha love the sibling banter and wow 2 weddings coming up!! I'm excited for both of you.
My advice is don't go too cheap ..live it up it's her I mean both of yours big day.. Save later don't skimp on your wedding to spend more on a honeymoon..a honeymoon is just a holiday really. A wedding is a statement of your tastes, a celebration, a day of happiness that lasts a lifetime.

Normally I'd agree but she doesn't even want a wedding. She's pushing for us to elope and get married at a registry office. Honestly our wedding is for other people.

 

[K E]

Normally I'd agree but she doesn't even want a wedding. She's pushing for us to elope and get married at a registry office. Honestly our wedding is for other people.

If she's anything like my missus, and let's face it all broads are the same, she's probably saying that because she's either stressed out by the whole planning a wedding thing or she's heard how much of a pain in the ass they are to plan. Every girl wants that dress.

 

[Dingo]

My fiancée and I are getting married this August after 18 years together. To be sure to be sure lol.

 

[coach]

My fiancée and I are getting married this August after 18 years together. To be sure to be sure lol.

18 years, I thought my run was good at 11

 

[Mr Invisible]

My fiancée and I are getting married this August after 18 years together. To be sure to be sure lol.

Congrats... 18 year.. WOW ... Wifey and I were together for 11 before I proposed / 12 before we got married. 19 years this year.

If she's anything like my missus, and let's face it all broads are the same, she's probably saying that because she's either stressed out by the whole planning a wedding thing or she's heard how much of a pain in the ass they are to plan. Every girl wants that dress.

Yep ... guarantee it..

I don't want to make a fuss about things *flutters eyelashes*
*starts making a massive fuss*

 

[Hacky McAxe]

My fiancée and I are getting married this August after 18 years together. To be sure to be sure lol.

18 years, I thought my run was good at 11

15 years for me.

 

[CroydonDog]

Let's face it - weddings are as boring as batshit, and chances are there's a Dogs game you are missing because your missus has dragged you to a wedding somewhere out of town for one of her fieends you didn't even like.

I love my wife with all of my heart, but I even I was bored at mine (but TBF, Chinese Thai weddings are pretty serious affairs). Luckily 4 of my long standing mates, and my parents, made the trek (I think i rewarded the boys with a Bangkok bucks party they will never forget...).

It's the open bar that keeps most blokes in the game.

 

[CroydonDog]

I should add, that marriage is great though. I loved it so much, I've done it twice

All the best OP.

 

[The DoggFather]

I told the misses I'd only marry her if I had 2 bucks parties, so I had one in Vegas and another in Cancun.

I'd say ask @K E about them but I don't think he remembers after his 30th drink lol

It took us about 20 mins to convince him a cop was actually a real cop and not a stripper lol

 

[south of heaven]

I told the misses I'd only marry her if I had 2 bucks parties, so I had one in Vegas and another in Cancun.

I'd say ask @K E about them but I don't think he remembers after his 30th drink lol

It took us about 20 mins to convince him a cop was actually a real cop and not a stripper lol

No cop strip strip

 

[K E]

I told the misses I'd only marry her if I had 2 bucks parties, so I had one in Vegas and another in Cancun.

I'd say ask @K E about them but I don't think he remembers after his 30th drink lol

It took us about 20 mins to convince him a cop was actually a real cop and not a stripper lol

Haha. That Latin cop? Fuck, she was hot!

I miss Vegas...

 

[Mr Shhh]

First of all congratulations

General Tips:
1. Have as much sex as possible now, as once you're hitched it slowly declines as marriage goes on LOL. j/k
2. When organising things remember the "W tax". Mention the word "wedding" and everything mysteriously hikes in price.
3. Try and call in favours and ask friends/family if they know or have links with: photographers, DJ/MC, florist, venue owners, jewelry designers, graphics designers, hair and makeup. Anyone in those industries will save you decent money.
4. If you hold the reception and ceremony at the same place, costs of transportation will be lower. If in same state/area you can get ready at home and her at the venue perhaps.
5. Whatever future wife wants, future wife gets. It's HER dream wedding remember
6. Relax and enjoy the day, take everything in and don't stress. That way you'll enjoy yourself more and it'll fly by.
7. BE ORGANISED. The more organised you are the less stressful things are.

We used a program called i-Do Couples Edition (Windows), as well as their other software Tabula Rasa (for seating charts). There is a cloud version but I have no idea how good it is. I'd have happily paid double for the software as it was a godsend. Regularly keeps you updated with things as they approach on a simple screen, and reminds you of milestones (e.g two weeks before call the florist, etc), and allows you to order everything in a way you print it out for wedding planners/venue. Does meal plans, Save the Date stuff, even full budgeting. You can say "I only want to spend $20000 all up", and it'll work with that, and as you add the costs of things in, it'll lower your remaining budget. Or you can say "I want to spent $3000 on the venue", and it'll work with that (and let you know if you are under/over budget), and it goes really in depth. Can't recommend it enough. Even after the wedding you can input what gifts you got from people, send out thank you cards, and everything else. It really is a complete package, and dead simple to use.

Specific Wedding things:
1. Destinations / venues are a very personal thing. Only you two can decide it.
My good mate had a destination wedding (Hamilton Island), as did friends of ours (Fiji). We decided waterfront and had it at Newport Mirage (as we had family/friends from interstate/regional and they could accomodate us all there).
I've been to church weddings, beach weddings, weddings at Stanwell Tops. Destination weddings can be combined with a honeymoon, and also used to cut down numbers to only those you truly want there (but at their potential expense).
2. Decide early if you are having a full theme, partial (mild) theme, or none at all. We had a partial Fijian / tropical island theme due to our honeymoon destination (seating chart was done up with tables named after Fijian islands, wishing well was a treasure chest, and we made a little diorama plaster island with mini figurines of "us" on it).
3. Decide early on if you want kids at the wedding or not.
4. Numbers are a tricky thing. Remember as you increase the amount of people the price goes up and you end up having a situation where "well if we invite the great 4th cousin twice removed on my side, we need to invite the 5th cousin on your side". I think we had about 70 at our wedding and it was a good number. Friends and family and that was it.
5. Video is subjective. I wouldn't bother (personally) as how often will you watch it. It's also a massive cost.
6. I honestly wouldn't bother with cars. Bit of a wank, an unnecessary expense, and really adds nothing to the day. That is unless you reach out and have friends/family (or someone they know) with a nice car.
7. Save the Date cards (etc) need not be expensive, but get organised early if ordering from like VistaPrint/Snap/Etsy/etc.
8. Bonbonnieres are personal things as well, and need not be expensive. Etsy, Ebay, alibaba are all places you can get decent ideas from. You can even make your own. We've got things from lollies in jars, to deckchairs with candles, to salt and pepper shakers, and even stubby coolers.
9. Decorating the venue yourself can cut costs but be VERY time consuming. We just dropped the bonbonnieres ourselves.
10. Depending on your location, you might be able to find nice areas nearby where you can have photos taken. For us we had photos on Warriewood beach as it was nearby. You can scout that out yourself.
11. Decide if you want full sit down meal or buffet. Buffet will be cheaper but full sit down meals are better.
12. Bogans doing burnouts and cultural drums... try to resist the urge.
13. Decide early if you want a pre wedding shoot with your photographer - it can be a nice way to create flow in a wedding photo album.

That's all that comes to mind at the moment. If you want to know any specifics re the above (or an opinion to bounce ideas off) just give us a yell.

What are you, a wedding planner? Some of your posts are that long I’m starting to think you have a team of writers on your payroll.

 

[Memberberries]

Haha. That Latin cop? Fuck, she was hot!

I miss Vegas...

Be very weary of Latina women.
Sweet on the outside but highly venomous on the inside as I'm starting to learn for myself!

 

[Dingo]

I'm thinking a Royal Blue tie on white shirt, with black suit.

Simple, classy, and totally Bulldogs.

 

[Mr Invisible]

What are you, a wedding planner? Some of your posts are that long I’m starting to think you have a team of writers on your payroll.

hahaha nah ... and that post probably took an hour or more to type up.

 

[Hacky McAxe]

Haha. That Latin cop? Fuck, she was hot!

I miss Vegas...

When we were in Vegas our hotel/casino had a fire evacuation. This hot looking cop chick stopped this young guy running through and said, "you have to wear shoes in here". The young guy said, "Like I'm going to listen to a stripper" and ran off.

 

[Wolfmother]

Normally I'd agree but she doesn't even want a wedding. She's pushing for us to elope and get married at a registry office. Honestly our wedding is for other people.

In that case you have to get it in writing..."under no duress " must be used in her statement. Lol

 

[Bad Billy]

Any tips before we get into the full swing of things? or life advice

Yea,
Don’t do it.

 

[Bad Billy]

One piece of marriage advice: Don't waste time fighting with each other. It achieves nothing. Instead invest time finding a solution the the problem that is making you want to fight.

If something fires up between you, go your own directions to cool off and think of a solution, then come back together with a clear head and figure out a solution together.

Fuck up. Dr Phil.

 

[Bad Billy]

My fiancée and I are getting married this August after 18 years together. To be sure to be sure lol.

Finally cracked under the pressure ?