Opinion Relationship problems

[Realist90]

Yea well she broke up and it killed me I had my whole life taken away my son and daughter that I use to fall asleep with every night gone so I was pretty shattered. I made a tinder after she told me she cheated on me 4 years ago (which cut me cause she lied about it for 4 years!) and still to this day I try to move on from everything so we can live a happy life but she always brings up how much I fucked her over etc , it's so fuckin complicated an I wish I had the writing skills to put it out there clearly but yea haha

Broooooo. Fuck that shit. She says you fkd her over yet she’s cheated and no offence seems like a legit slut who’s take offence to being called one but factually speaking she a slut.
I would hate to be in your situation man, sorry no fake positivity from me, that’s an absolute shit fucken show.
It’s a shame women complain men apparently don’t stay loyal but when a man is actually in love with a girl they’ll never cheat. Women on the other hand, can’t control their fucking emotions and will cheat and then regret it and make it somehow the mans fault for not meeting their needs.

 

[Typical dog]

Post pics of both girls. Hard to judge without pics

 

[belmore_utd]

I don't have the answer but ehhh maybe this guy does

 

[Wolfmother]

That's the realist thing I've read and it's 100% true. The jealousy side of it is crazy. I'm not to proud about it but I put the first one through a window at st Mary's shopping centre and the second one had to be taken by ambulance. I got charged for both and still going through court and this other girl (she hates it so much btw) has still stood by my side through it all

Please say you weren't wearing a bulldogs jersey when you did it..that is all

 

[Wolfmother]

Post pics of both girls. Hard to judge without pics

True dat

 

[yearofthedog]

Nothing worse than being in a shit position regarding a relationship
Maybe sit her down and let her know exactly how you feel
Good or bad, at least you get that shit of your chest
Sometj8mes it’s best to talk it out and that way you know where everyone stands

Yea tried that but everytime we talk she twists my words to make out like I'm putting her down etc

 

[yearofthedog]

Does the ex want you back? If yes, then that's your answer, family should always surpass what's in the heart. Think about the two young ones, these days it's tough to raise children on you own.

That's exactly how I think and yea she does but at the same time finds every excuse for us to not be together if that makes sense.
Anti depressants destroyed our relationship

 

[Mr Invisible]

@rainman this ones better.

The thing is they're are both crazy hot my ex is hot cause she's in the gym and the other girl is just naturally fuckin beautiful. Difference with the two aswell is my ex posts ass pics on instagram and shit like that for everyone to see (knows I hate it) but says it's because it makes her feel more confident (trust me I don't get it ether)
The other doesn't post anything like that at all

The other girl is fully supportive of me having kids and wanted to meet them she also wants her own kids some day aswell

My heart says the other girl but for some reason I can't stand to see my ex with anyone else and I don't know whether it's because of the kids or because I actually love her so fuckin much lol where the other girl I don't care if she talks to other guys but that's more te fact I trust her completely

That's because you're jealous of her finding happiness with another person who isn't you.

Move on... 100%.. because if you try and repair things, it'll happen again. Shes cheated before she'll be more careful not to get caught.

Anyone who posts arse pictures on instagram is looking for self validation, and will hop on the cock of whoever gives her that.

You're playing with fire there.

Trying not to be offensive here but she sounds like the village bike. Everyones having a ride.

 

[dog 4life]

No brainer keep both

 

[Dogzof95]

That's exactly how I think and yea she does but at the same time finds every excuse for us to not be together if that makes sense.
Anti depressants destroyed our relationship

Sometimes when you love someone so much, you make a decision to let them go. Because a relationship based on unhappiness even though your together is a bad relationship. You both want to live a long life to be able to support each other for the sake of the children. Depression is a mother$#%@ and from my experience of dealing with people in that state, is you want get out of it and never look back. Live your life for the future brother, not the past, that's how depression wins!

 

[Kaz]

It's time for you to move on.

She cheated on you & lied about it.

She posts photos of herself, knowing it upsets you.

You deserve happiness, you won't get it with your ex.

In the back of you mind, if you are with her you will always think, is she cheating again.

And she will cheat again.

 

[Alan79]

Tough position to be in. But if you connect more emotionally with the current gf it seems like a good idea to stick with her. Sounds like the only thing going for the old relationship was the sex and she was also chasing sex elsewhere. It's hard moving forward from a six year relationship, but it doesn't sound like it was a good relationship at the end.

Where it gets hard is maintaining a healthy relationship with the kids. Never unleash about the ex round them. Let them know it's not their fault and that you will always be there for them.

At the end of all the advice you get here you'll go with the option you were planning to go with anyway. But it doesn't sound like the old relationship was healthy or repairable. Just my opinion though.

 

[Memberberries]

My current relationship in a nutshell is -
I've let go of the steering wheel and hit a brick wall!

After going on a few dates I don't think we will work out?
Her English not too good.
I'm sick of having to choose my words and speak broken English!

 

[habs]

My current relationship in a nutshell is -
I've let go of the steering wheel and hit a brick wall!

After going on a few dates I don't think we will work out?
Her English not too good.
I'm sick of having to choose my words and speak broken English!

Yellow fever Quaid??

 

[Memberberries]

Yellow fever Quaid??

No shes from Brazil.

So in between the yellow and the white!

Nice young lady but I don't want to rely on google translate.

I shouldn't have to learn Portuguese in an English speaking country.

 

[Alan79]

My current relationship in a nutshell is -
I've let go of the steering wheel and hit a brick wall!

After going on a few dates I don't think we will work out?
Her English not too good.
I'm sick of having to choose my words and speak broken English!

Been there with a former co-worker from Japan. It makes it difficult to see a future if you can't really talk simply. The realisation hit when I tried to explain the word obstacle that it was going to drive me crazy having 500 plus conversations trying to explain things without the basic tools.

 

[Memberberries]

Been there with a former co-worker from Japan. It makes it difficult to see a future if you can't really talk simply. The realisation hit when I tried to explain the word obstacle that it was going to drive me crazy having 500 plus conversations trying to explain things without the basic tools.

These days we are lucky because google translator becoming more accurate.

Don't know if I'll give up just yet?
She said she wanted to do something for my birthday.
Going to hold her to it.

 

[Wolfmother]

Been there with a former co-worker from Japan. It makes it difficult to see a future if you can't really talk simply. The realisation hit when I tried to explain the word obstacle that it was going to drive me crazy having 500 plus conversations trying to explain things without the basic tools.

but the Japanese accent is pretty awesome though..

 

[Memberberries]

but the Japanese accent is pretty awesome though..

The Brazilian accent is cute!
I need to stop fucking around with foreigner women though but its all I can attract.

I did attract 3 young Australian women.
They got kicked out from the casino before the sun went down and said they were going to the PBH to wait for me to finish work.

I shook my head at them and told them theres no way they've got the pump to wait for me! Lol

 

[Alan79]

but the Japanese accent is pretty awesome though..

I like most accents really. But her English was extremely limited. I gave it about 2 weeks and got very fed up with the language barrier. Decided to end it early on rather than prolong things. Still message her on Facebook occasionally. And her English is not much better three years later.