Opinion Relationship problems

[yearofthedog]

Going through a rough time so please just need some advice no backlash

First of all I'm 27 so I know I got years ahead of me

So I was with my ex for 6 years we broke up about a year and a half ago. We have 2 kids together which are 6 and 2. I obviously still love her and I know she loves me but understand in this year and a half separated (on off sort of thing) a lot has happened and made it hard for both of us to trust each other. It's not one persons fault it honestly is both of us.

Anyway in this period she has dated two different guys and the circumstances of their relationships is unknown to me. They arnt together anymore.

I met a girl aswell and to me she is everything I've ever wanted in a woman. She's italian beautiful and eyes like they've been plucked from the sky. We connect on a whole different level where we it is actually pretty full on emotionally.

Without going into to much detail, because I feel like I'm just getting lost in the story, I can't decide between the woman that I love and can't stand to see with another man and also the mother to my two kids and this girl that just gets me on every level

So with my ex we connect so good sexually like the sex is amazing and the other girl is everything else I want in a girl. If they were combined into one she'd be perfect for me

Anyway the question is
"how do you chose between two girls that you actually love so much for different reasons ?"

One girl is the mother of my kids hot as fuck goes to the gym everyday and the sex is great but we don't connect on that soulmate kind of level like I do with the other girl that is also hot as fuck

HEEELLPPPPP A BROTHER OUT !!! HAHAHA



PS - sorry if everything seems so confusing I had it all worked out in my head how to ask te question but when it came to actually typing it it all mumbled up.

 

[south of heaven]

One solution they must fight It out in a jelly wrestling competition.
Or............

 

[Mr Invisible]

Remember the crazy hot scacle here. Think with your heart and head, not your dick. Simple as that.

Your ex is your ex for a reason. You burned 6 years there, and what happens when you get back together, burn another 6 years then break up for good because she's getting 6 inches from 3 other blokes she met during your break.

Does this other woman you are seeing want kids (or is she prepared to share you with your 2 kids)? If not there is your answer too.

 

[rainman]

 

[yearofthedog]

Remember the crazy hot scacle here. Think with your heart and head, not your dick. Simple as that.

Your ex is your ex for a reason. You burned 6 years there, and what happens when you get back together, burn another 6 years then break up for good because she's getting 6 inches from 3 other blokes she met during your break.

Does this other woman you are seeing want kids (or is she prepared to share you with your 2 kids)? If not there is your answer too.

The thing is they're are both crazy hot my ex is hot cause she's in the gym and the other girl is just naturally fuckin beautiful. Difference with the two aswell is my ex posts ass pics on instagram and shit like that for everyone to see (knows I hate it) but says it's because it makes her feel more confident (trust me I don't get it ether)
The other doesn't post anything like that at all

The other girl is fully supportive of me having kids and wanted to meet them she also wants her own kids some day aswell

My heart says the other girl but for some reason I can't stand to see my ex with anyone else and I don't know whether it's because of the kids or because I actually love her so fuckin much lol where the other girl I don't care if she talks to other guys but that's more te fact I trust her completely

 

[Moedogg]

Seems like sex is not as great with the second hot as fuck girl as it is with your hot as fuck ex. Solution... Teach second hot as fuck to give better head..

 

[coach]

Sounds like sex isn’t as good with the new bird coz your hung up on the ex........
And no offence bro you also sound like you have a vagina, reading that sounds like a bird wrote it lol
Which can only mean one thing ... you’ve done ur nuts

 

[Realist90]

She’s dated in that time? Bro best advice. Move on. I mean my actual best advice
Would have been don’t have kids till you get married but things happen. I could neverrr continue a relo if a girl has dated during a break even break up.
But you are in a shit situation coz you have children with this woman.

 

[yearofthedog]

Sounds like sex isn’t as good with the new bird coz your hung up on the ex........
And no offence bro you also sound like you have a vagina, reading that sounds like a bird wrote it lol
Which can only mean one thing ... you’ve done ur nuts

Don't worry I knew there'd be one fuckwit on here that had to act like that
But you're right about the hung up on the ex part I feel that heaps lol

 

[yearofthedog]

She’s dated in that time? Bro best advice. Move on. I mean my actual best advice
Would have been don’t have kids till you get married but things happen. I could neverrr continue a relo if a girl has dated during a break even break up.
But you are in a shit situation coz you have children with this woman.

Yea two public relationships actually. Like I know I was talking to this other chick but it was never put out on social media or put out to friends and family like they were which also makes it hard

 

[yearofthedog]

Seems like sex is not as great with the second hot as fuck girl as it is with your hot as fuck ex. Solution... Teach second hot as fuck to give better head..

Yea it's not but I dunno if it's because me and my ex were together for so long that we were that comfortable trying all new shit as with this new girl don't get me wrong she goes hard but like I like getting right into it like porn style bro haha

 

[Rodzilla]

Remember the crazy hot scacle here. Think with your heart and head, not your dick. Simple as that.

Your ex is your ex for a reason. You burned 6 years there, and what happens when you get back together, burn another 6 years then break up for good because she's getting 6 inches from 3 other blokes she met during your break.

Does this other woman you are seeing want kids (or is she prepared to share you with your 2 kids)? If not there is your answer too.

wtf everyone should think with the dick, the head is an idiot and the hearts job is only to pump blood to the dick

 

[Realist90]

Yea two public relationships actually. Like I know I was talking to this other chick but it was never put out on social media or put out to friends and family like they were which also makes it hard

Who cares if you were talking to other chicks you’re a guy. It’s completely different when a girl talks to men and men talking to girls. Girls get ducking emotionally attached and slut about. Men are just testing the waters and men can’t even be sluts.

 

[Raysie]

I think it's the jealousy that's blinding you mate, using the kids and love as an excuse to go back to her. (I dont know you so please take anything I say with a grain of salt, but that's how I see it)

Be happy, it sounds like you're both on good terms - you still get to see your kids and it sounds like you have the perfect supporting partner. Dont ruin a good thing!

 

[coach]

Don't worry I knew there'd be one fuckwit on here that had to act like that
But you're right about the hung up on the ex part I feel that heaps lol

Lol, your defiantly in love with the ex how you wrote that bro
I think you’ve answered your own question
Best of luck bud

 

[yearofthedog]

I think it's the jealousy that's blinding you mate, using the kids and love as an excuse to go back to her. (I dont know you so please take anything I say with a grain of salt, but that's how I see it)

Be happy, it sounds like you're both on good terms - you still get to see your kids and it sounds like you have the perfect supporting partner. Dont ruin a good thing!

That's the realist thing I've read and it's 100% true. The jealousy side of it is crazy. I'm not to proud about it but I put the first one through a window at st Mary's shopping centre and the second one had to be taken by ambulance. I got charged for both and still going through court and this other girl (she hates it so much btw) has still stood by my side through it all

 

[yearofthedog]

Who cares if you were talking to other chicks you’re a guy. It’s completely different when a girl talks to men and men talking to girls. Girls get ducking emotionally attached and slut about. Men are just testing the waters and men can’t even be sluts.

Yea well she broke up and it killed me I had my whole life taken away my son and daughter that I use to fall asleep with every night gone so I was pretty shattered. I made a tinder after she told me she cheated on me 4 years ago (which cut me cause she lied about it for 4 years!) and still to this day I try to move on from everything so we can live a happy life but she always brings up how much I fucked her over etc , it's so fuckin complicated an I wish I had the writing skills to put it out there clearly but yea haha

 

[yearofthedog]

Lol, your defiantly in love with the ex how you wrote that bro
I think you’ve answered your own question
Best of luck bud

Yea that's why I'm stuck lol but read the other comment to realist I just wrote and it will bring more hindsight to the situation that keeps me from choosing her straight out

 

[coach]

Yea that's why I'm stuck lol but read the other comment to realist I just wrote and it will bring more hindsight to the situation that keeps me from choosing her straight out

Nothing worse than being in a shit position regarding a relationship
Maybe sit her down and let her know exactly how you feel
Good or bad, at least you get that shit of your chest
Sometj8mes it’s best to talk it out and that way you know where everyone stands

 

[Dogzof95]

Does the ex want you back? If yes, then that's your answer, family should always surpass what's in the heart. Think about the two young ones, these days it's tough to raise children on you own.