News Mario Fenech endured Footy Show taunts despite the onset of early dementia

[Kempsey Dog]

My mum unfortunately has it and I can attest that it is a horrible disease. My mum has an aggressive personality which my sister's and I are struggling with. She won't let us take control of her meds and she isn't taking them properly herself.

She has managed to break me on numerous ocassions and I simply cannot cope with her anymore. To me, she is a different person.

I cant believe how this disease can change a person so much....

My pop has dementia and my mum sees him everyday in the nursing home and it's fucked her up. There is other family trauma at the root of her issues, but long story short, she has lost her mind and claims that her sister (they hate each other) has put a curse on her and her father and now apparently there evil/demons in her house.

This is only occured since Thursday and I tried to encourage her to get help, but she said if you all get me locked up and I can't say goodbye to dad when he passes soon, that she will kill herself.

So yeah the disease is nasty and manifests it's way into all vulnerable relatives...
As bad as it sounds I want my pop to die so he's at rest / not suffering and I can get my mother the help she needs.

I hope everything with your mum gets easier in time.

 

[Mr 95%]

My pop has dementia and my mum sees him everyday in the nursing home and it's fucked her up. There is other family trauma at the root of her issues, but long story short, she has lost her mind and claims that her sister (they hate each other) has put a curse on her and her father and now apparently there evil/demons in her house.

This is only occured since Thursday and I tried to encourage her to get help, but she said if you all get me locked up and I can't say goodbye to dad when he passes soon, that she will kill herself.

So yeah the disease is nasty and manifests it's way into all vulnerable relatives...
As bad as it sounds I want my pop to die so he's at rest and I can get my mother the help she needs.

I hope everything with your mum gets easier in time.

Geeze..unbelievable..another Kenneler’s family is touched..I should say hammered..by dementia.. Sheesh so sorry to hear this..and this with your mum.. Mate don’t know what to say..gosh..I hope your situation improves..I can’t think of anything else to say..so sorry..

 

[dogluva]

My mum unfortunately has it and I can attest that it is a horrible disease. My mum has an aggressive personality which my sister's and I are struggling with. She won't let us take control of her meds and she isn't taking them properly herself.

She has managed to break me on numerous ocassions and I simply cannot cope with her anymore. To me, she is a different person.

I cant believe how this disease can change a person so much....

I feel for you and can only offer the advice to remember the good, solid times you have had with her and whatever lucid moments she has left on this planet.

It is so cruel to see someone who has been such a big influence in your life be taken from you little by little, treading water and then disappearing below the water level, until they can surface again to take a breath and slowly becoming a shell of their former self. My Dad suffered this insidious end..... a mind as sharp as a tack, a great memory slowly going whilst we stood by watching.
I know what you mean when you say that she is a different person ...she is.

Hang in there mate do your best to keep on top of her medication..it is not uncommon for the affected person to rebel to a degree as they feel they are losing control of their own life.

Much love and positive thoughts your way.

 

[Mr 95%]

I feel for you and can only offer the advice to remember the good, solid times you have had with her and whatever lucid moments she has left on this planet.

It is so cruel to see someone who has been such a big influence in your life be taken from you little by little, treading water and then disappearing below the water level, until they can surface again to take a breath and slowly becoming a shell of their former self. My Dad suffered this insidious end..... a mind as sharp as a tack, a great memory slowly going whilst we stood by watching.
I know what you mean when you say that she is a different person ...she is.

Hang in there mate do your best to keep on top of her medication..it is not uncommon for the affected person to rebel to a degree as they feel they are losing control of their own life.

Much love and positive thoughts your way.

Again..my gosh DL..

 

[Kempsey Dog]

Geeze..unbelievable..another Kenneler’s family is touched..I should say hammered..by dementia.. Sheesh so sorry to hear this..and this with your mum.. Mate don’t know what to say..gosh..I hope it improves..I can’t think of anything else to say..so sorry..

Thanks for your words. It's the beginning of a very long road I believe... but one I must travel.
It is extremely difficult to try and reason with someone in this state of mind, need to basically try and plant ideas in their head in regards to treatment and make them think it's their decision.

 

[Mr 95%]

Thanks for your words. It's the beginning of a very long road I believe... but one I must travel.
It is extremely difficult to try and reason with someone in this state of mind, need to basically try and plant ideas in their head in regards to treatment and make them think it's their decision.

I’m sure I speak for all Kennelers..we are all here to help if you need it..you are not alone..

 

[Kempsey Dog]

I’m sure I speak for all Kennelers..we are all here to help if you need it..you are not alone..

Thanks mate appreciate it.

 

[Marki]

My pop has dementia and my mum sees him everyday in the nursing home and it's fucked her up. There is other family trauma at the root of her issues, but long story short, she has lost her mind and claims that her sister (they hate each other) has put a curse on her and her father and now apparently there evil/demons in her house.

This is only occured since Thursday and I tried to encourage her to get help, but she said if you all get me locked up and I can't say goodbye to dad when he passes soon, that she will kill herself.

So yeah the disease is nasty and manifests it's way into all vulnerable relatives...
As bad as it sounds I want my pop to die so he's at rest and I can get my mother the help she needs.

I hope everything with your mum gets easier in time.

Yep. It's sad because I know of quite afew cases of other families where an older person has dementia, but they are docile and effectively given themselves up in the care of their children.

My mother is either at an earlier stage and in full denial but also aggressive. If the doctors even attempted to alert her of her condition, she'd bite their heads off and rubbish their opinion. Needless to say, she'd never return to them and would become even more concious of seeing a doctor after it.

It's a very volatile situation. I've had nasty confrontations with her, and I've even threatened her. It's why I say I am broken.

I just hope my sisters have more patience coz I'm afraid I need help myself now...

 

[Marki]

I feel for you and can only offer the advice to remember the good, solid times you have had with her and whatever lucid moments she has left on this planet.

It is so cruel to see someone who has been such a big influence in your life be taken from you little by little, treading water and then disappearing below the water level, until they can surface again to take a breath and slowly becoming a shell of their former self. My Dad suffered this insidious end..... a mind as sharp as a tack, a great memory slowly going whilst we stood by watching.
I know what you mean when you say that she is a different person ...she is.

Hang in there mate do your best to keep on top of her medication..it is not uncommon for the affected person to rebel to a degree as they feel they are losing control of their own life.

Much love and positive thoughts your way.

Thanks. It does help to talk to others who have had to deal with it. I struggle, but hearing it from you guys gives me some strength to keep going.

 

[beastwood89]

Tough watching that on 7 sad

 

[Marki]

Thanks for your words. It's the beginning of a very long road I believe... but one I must travel.
It is extremely difficult to try and reason with someone in this state of mind, need to basically try and plant ideas in their head in regards to treatment and make them think it's their decision.

You've hit the nail on the head.
Plant ideas and make them think its their decision! It's the only way my mum will agree to do anything.....

 

[Kempsey Dog]

Yep. It's sad because I know of quite afew cases of other families where an older person has dementia, but they are docile and effectively given themselves up in the care of their children.

My mother is either at an earlier stage and in full denial but also aggressive. If the doctors even attempted to alert her of her condition, she'd bite their heads off and rubbish their opinion. Needless to say, she'd never return to them and would become even more concious of seeing a doctor after it.

It's a very volatile situation. I've had nasty confrontations with her, and I've even threatened her. It's why I say I am broken.

I just hope my sisters have more patience coz I'm afraid I need help myself now...

Yeah man it gets hard, my mother was looking after pop before his condition was known, and he was quite aggressive as well.
There is no shame in stepping away and getting yourself together before helping again, talk to your sisters and be a supportive unit for one another. Even taking turns in who assists / visits your mother, or even do it together... Aslong as you are open and honest with each other, you will find the least difficult path.

 

[Blueandwhiteblood1968]

If they knew he had dementia and took the piss then that's low.

Mum died 2016 if dementia and it's a fcuken cruel disease.
The best to his family, must be hard.

If fatty and sterlo knew he had dementia I'm pretty sure they would not have made fun of him.

 

[dogzofwar]

This is fuckin sad man he seems like a great bloke Mario would love to meet him some day

 

[Tazer]

That was fucking hard to watch man. All the best Mario.

 

[Malla]

I agree with above . Don’t think they knew he had dementia etc but the reason he had that role was I believe racist bullying which was supposedly “funny” back then . Don’t forget this was the era of mahatma cote .

also Mario’s generation there was real racism back then not like the plastic racism of today and he worked with people of his generation , says enough

100%
Token wog

 

[Stoofy]

What a prick of a illness. Its very sad reading what some are going through. I wish you all the best.

 

[Doogie]

Both step parents. Looked after one of them for 10 years. But this is about CTE.

Mario was tough as fck. As others have said, did Mario buy into having the piss taken out of him or was his decision making diminished by the CTE? Tough to say.

Regardless, respect Mario for being a warrior and paying the price. And super respect for the family having to look after him. Been there - its tough.

 

[Malla]

I don’t know what’s worse
Having dimentia
Or finding out every day for the first time your son married a bloke

Jokes

 

[wendog33]

Didn't see the Mario special on 7. Will watch later.

But I can say from experience with my Mother, if it's the first experience you've had with a loved one with dementia, it can take a while to work out what the hell is going on.

My Mother's doctor told me that sufferers are very adept at covering it up in the early stages. You can ask a question and they pause in answering and you find yourself jumping in with the answer not realising there is a problem. Or you get an answer "oh yes that's right" etc.

If you have no experience of it you can get impatient with the sufferer bc you don't know why they aren't acting their usual same way.

My Mother got very frustrated and called herself silly bc she couldn't think thru simple processes like writing a cheque or xmas cards. It was very depressing for her and us.

Its all very perplexing if you know nothing of dementia.

Her doctor told me not to ask questions bc this rams home the mental anguish they feel and overloads the brain in making them upset at the thought processes they've lost.

It's an evil thing. For families it's terrible as your mum or dad fades away from you. We were lucky in the sense that Mum went to a happy place and the frustration and depression she felt stopped as her brain function eased off.

All I can offer is ...just hang in there. They may not act as tho they appreciate us caring for them...but in our hearts we know they do and would if they were physically ill and not suffering from dementia.

Our parents changed our nappies, toilet trained us, taught us how to eat, tie shoelaces, communicate etc. Do whatever you can to help and read up on this scurge so you have better acknowledge.

They were there for us so do what you can for them. They are a long time gone and regrets and guilt are hard to live with. There will come a time when a new phase of the illness for them goes from anger and aggression, into sadly a hollow shell. Be kind to yourself, take time out and know that you did all you could to make them as comfortable as possible whilst they were under your love and care xx