In the workplace or anywhere. If you pick on someone for something out of their control you are an absolute piece of shit.
For me it's losing hair, happens to all of us at some point or another. I've been embracing it no point in changing who I am, fuck pills, fuck transplant and all that other shit... Why worry and why waste the coin.
Its not just me though. Ive seen other people ridiculed at work for speech and various other things. I absolutely hate it wether it be toward myself or seeing/hearing it happen to someone else.
Anyways I guess this kinda was a venting post to get it out instead of bottled up stewing away. Feel free to share opinions or gets something off your chest that been working you up... might be strange to some but this post helped me relax and who knows it might help one of you.
Cheers Kennelers
I went through some crap a few years back. A turd training as a supervisor for another team had decided that I was gay. I had a few women interested in me within the workplace and my morals and ethics kept me from taking advantage of it. I have four sisters that have all had kids with men they've broken up with. So I make a point of getting to know women well before I even date them. I'd rather not have kids that have to deal with a shit house relationship between their parents, so I'll keep the old fellow in the pants rather than risking unplanned fatherhood.
Anyway, this supervisor who basically spent 90% of his time at work acting like a bollard decided that everyone needed to be informed that I was gay. I didn't know that the rumour was being spread, but I did notice that mates had become very uncomfortable around me. I had no idea why, but I'm perceptive enough to have noticed it. I worked it all out one day when the turd made a gay joke about tickling a mates ass with a feather until it was pink when I walked into the area where he was being a bollard. The mate looked at me embarrassed and it twigged that was the reason that blokes I'd known for years were uncomfortable around me. I confirmed it by asking the mate who denied it until I pressed him about it. But I was instantly pissed off that people I'd known for three plus years never had the decency to let me know about the rumours.
I'm generally not someone that gives a crap what people think about me but I reported that it was going on to a manager. They supposedly disciplined him by promoting him to a full supervisor the next day.
I didn't bother to dispel the rumour actively. I used the situation to work out who my real friends were. Turns out it's wasn't more than a couple of people. But it all came to a head when I returned from lunch one day and this supervisor and a lower level manager made a gay joke as I approached. After punching a bubbler and bending it, I again approached HR to try to get them to sort it out. They told me I needed witnesses or they could do nothing. But at that stage I started getting paranoid about it all. Wound up talking to four or five people one day (including one girl who said she was in the closet as a lesbian for fear of ostracism) and wound up telling one fellow that the supervisor deserved to be shot. He went and told HR about the conversation trying to help, I copped a four month stand down and had to do some counseling with only about a month's pay. They tried to keep me from returning to work. But I was determined to not let their bullshit end my time in the job. Wound up taking legal action. Got a modest payout and returned to the job. Became a union delegate there when the union first started and wound up getting the bloke fired by getting four people to speak up about the fact that he was being racist as well. Immensely satisfying in the end, but it really fucked with my head for about 8 months. They're an absolute **** of a company though and it was a happy day for me when I told them to shove the job up their ass. I'm pretty proud of the fact that I never beat the living shit out of the guy at the center of it though. Had temper issues all my life.
But the experience has really made me look at how others are treated and speak up about bullying in the workplace if I recognise it. At the end of the day it taught me to be more outspoken. It's partly why I think Folau is an absolute **** and why I feel strongly against the religious freedom bill. Nobody deserves to feel ostracized or like an outcast because others feel a bit uncomfortable about the way they live. Seen a lot of people that are religious that think it gives them the right to judge others.
